Loss is just an illusion

There is no such thing as Loss. If we analyze a situation more closely,  we will see that it will always lead to some gain. If we lose a dear one, we gain strength to move on. If we lose in our careers, we learn about some mistakes that we did. If we lose some ability, we find new ways to do the same stuff differently.

Life is all about gaining. Once you are here, in this world, you only gain. Now you must be thinking, she is just an idealist who likes to paint a happy picture of life because she has never had to deal with loss.

But believe me, I have lost people close to me, I have been fighting depression since three years, and I still am going through a tough time emotionally. I have known loss, and it has become a friend. I have seen great academic success and great academic failure in my adolescence. But the one thing I realized every time was, I learned more when I was going through a tough time. I pushed myself more and I emerged more beautiful than ever when life got tough on me.

I think a lot, and I have this need to document my every thought because it helps me see where I am heading towards. Your current thoughts are a reflection of your future life. To correct the course of your life, just correct your thoughts. It's as simple as that. All I am trying to say is, the situations that life throws at you, matter less and how you think about them matters more.

I am not saying don't grieve losses, but realize that they are a blessing in disguise and you are going to get through it and be stronger that ever. And always remember, it's who you are that matters in the end, so be the best possible version of yourself.

A lazy Saturday Afternoon and a turbulent mind

Sometimes you feel so overwhelmed by a single emotion that life seems pointless and difficult. The event that triggered that emotion, takes over your mind and body for that time and you feel that there is nothing else to life. I have seen my friends, obsessing over a relationship, pining over some friend's betrayal or worse, having self-destructive tendencies because their love was not reciprocated. 

All these situations have a single thing in common - The inability to shift our mind to see the bigger picture. Their minds were so engaged in that single event, trying to figure out what went wrong, whose mistake it was, are they a bad person etc etc, that they neglect other things.

All of us, at least those who are on internet and viewing this right now, I am sure, are blessed with beautiful things in life. Then why some of us, despite being so privileged, are not able to feel so. It's because we are not looking in the right place. We have a tendency to go after things that seem shiny and that are placed on some pedestal, things that seem special because no one has them, things that are not meant for us. We fail to recognize that the best things in life are very simple, as simple as cooking on a Sunday morning, having brunch with friends, saying I love you to your mother, talking about philosophy to your father, giving a small compliment to your colleague. It's important to appreciate these small things in life and then only we can focus on our dreams and goals. If we keep running, if we don't have peace of mind, then how can we expect to fulfill our aspirations.

Friends is one series that continues to surprise me and I keep learning from it.
I was watching an episode - The one with George Stephanopolis. In the ending of the episode, Rachel looks at her friends and tells the credit card guy, "I don't need credit card, I have magic beans".We just need to realize we have magic beans too. ;)

Our misery ends when we can say to ourselves that "just because one thing did not work out, it cannot stop me from having that life I had always imagined for myself. I am blessed and there is something special planned for me. My life is full of abundance and I am here to make this world a better place".